Comments on: Personality and Perfection http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/ Free Articles on LDS Marriage, Parenting. Sun, 05 Feb 2012 13:23:37 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Linda Bullough http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-838 Linda Bullough Thu, 03 Jun 2010 22:52:12 +0000 http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/#comment-838 Actually, I just had a Facebook conversation with Linda Bentley Johnson. While she used this quote, she did not know its source. She said in her 1997 BYU Presentation, "In my journal I copied these words that I refer to often: 'I don't want to drive up to the pearly gates, etc.'" (Every Good Thing: Talks from the 1997 BYU Women's Conference, "Steak and Spam Service," p. 90-91). She did not claim to be the source of the quote; hence, the choice of the words, "In my journal I copied these words..." I, too, have been trying to find the source of the quote and have been unsuccessful thus far, although just about every blog on the WWW attributes it to Marjorie Hinckley. Actually, I just had a Facebook conversation with Linda Bentley Johnson. While she used this quote, she did not know its source. She said in her 1997 BYU Presentation, “In my journal I copied these words that I refer to often: ‘I don’t want to drive up to the pearly gates, etc.’” (Every Good Thing: Talks from the 1997 BYU Women’s Conference, “Steak and Spam Service,” p. 90-91). She did not claim to be the source of the quote; hence, the choice of the words, “In my journal I copied these words…”

I, too, have been trying to find the source of the quote and have been unsuccessful thus far, although just about every blog on the WWW attributes it to Marjorie Hinckley.

]]> By: admin http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-127 admin Tue, 04 Mar 2008 02:46:03 +0000 http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/#comment-127 Thank you, Steve! It has been very hard to find the original source of the quote. I appreciate your help. -Wally Thank you, Steve! It has been very hard to find the original source of the quote. I appreciate your help.

-Wally

]]> By: steve http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-125 steve Sun, 02 Mar 2008 23:34:30 +0000 http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/#comment-125 Actually, that quote isn't attributable to Sister Hinckley. It is a quote from Linda Bentley Johnson given in a talk at the 1997 BYU Women's Conference called Steak and Spam Service. http://deseretbook.com/mormon-life/news/story?story_id=6999 Actually, that quote isn’t attributable to Sister Hinckley. It is a quote from Linda Bentley Johnson given in a talk at the 1997 BYU Women’s Conference called Steak and Spam Service.

http://deseretbook.com/mormon-life/news/story?story_id=6999

]]> By: Candleman http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-57 Candleman Wed, 13 Feb 2008 13:21:53 +0000 http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/#comment-57 I have two church callings. First, I'm Branch President at the Juvenile Detention Center. Second, I'm a facilitator for the LDS Addiction Recovery Program. In each of these callings I've learned exactly what you are telling us here. The children in the Detention Center are sweet dear young people. Sure they've committed crimes, but I don't spend a lot of time dealing with that aspect of them. Mostly, they are hurting, and acting out in some way in hopes of easing that pain. I think God's intention for me is that I help Him heal that pain. Clearly, when the pain subsides, so does the misbehavior. The same principles hold true for us addicts. We used to mask or anesthetize deep emotional and physical pain commonly coupled with the pain of spiritual malnutrition or starvation. As with the misbehavior of the youth, the solution is not in punishment, which comes of judgement and condemnation. The solution is in healing. Aaron was completely unmanagable. The DT staff couldn't control him, the other kids couldn't stand him. He acted out continually and was completely repulsive. We in the Branch, decided just to love Aaron, just the way he was. Gradually, feeling loved and accepted, with no strings attached, he settled down and became a delightful child. Six weeks, resulted in a miracle. Aaron's pain? His mother had died. His father was never home. His brother on a mission. He was hurting from loneliness and rejection. Giving Him love and affection was his Balm of Gilead. I have two church callings. First, I’m Branch President at the Juvenile Detention Center. Second, I’m a facilitator for the LDS Addiction Recovery Program. In each of these callings I’ve learned exactly what you are telling us here.

The children in the Detention Center are sweet dear young people. Sure they’ve committed crimes, but I don’t spend a lot of time dealing with that aspect of them. Mostly, they are hurting, and acting out in some way in hopes of easing that pain. I think God’s intention for me is that I help Him heal that pain. Clearly, when the pain subsides, so does the misbehavior.

The same principles hold true for us addicts. We used to mask or anesthetize deep emotional and physical pain commonly coupled with the pain of spiritual malnutrition or starvation. As with the misbehavior of the youth, the solution is not in punishment, which comes of judgement and condemnation. The solution is in healing.

Aaron was completely unmanagable. The DT staff couldn’t control him, the other kids couldn’t stand him. He acted out continually and was completely repulsive. We in the Branch, decided just to love Aaron, just the way he was. Gradually, feeling loved and accepted, with no strings attached, he settled down and became a delightful child. Six weeks, resulted in a miracle. Aaron’s pain? His mother had died. His father was never home. His brother on a mission. He was hurting from loneliness and rejection. Giving Him love and affection was his Balm of Gilead.

]]> By: Spencer Leavitt http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/comment-page-1/#comment-55 Spencer Leavitt Mon, 11 Feb 2008 23:15:54 +0000 http://www.drwally.org/celebrating-god/personality-and-perfection/#comment-55 Dr Goddard, I really enjoyed the article, as I do much of what you write. I was hoping you could help me out with the reference for the followinf quote attributed to Sister Hinckley, “I don’t want to drive up to the pearly gates in a shiny sports car, wearing beautifully, tailored clothes, my hair expertly coiffed, and with long, perfectly manicured fingernails. I want to drive up in a station wagon that has mud on the wheels from taking kids to scout camp. I want to be there with grass stains on my shoes from mowing Sister Schenk’s lawn. I want to be there with a smudge of peanut butter on my shirt from making sandwiches for a sick neighbor’s children. I want to be there with a little dirt under my fingernails from helping to weed someone’s garden. I want to be there with children’s sticky kisses on my cheeks and the tears of a friend on my shoulder. I want the Lord to know I was really here and that I really lived.” I have seen it attributed to her many times, but cannot find its source. I would be very grateful if you have any helpful information. sincerely, Spencer Leavitt Dr Goddard, I really enjoyed the article, as I do much of what you write. I was hoping you could help me out with the reference for the followinf quote attributed to Sister Hinckley, “I don’t want to drive up to the pearly gates in a shiny sports car, wearing beautifully, tailored clothes, my hair expertly coiffed, and with long, perfectly manicured fingernails. I want to drive up in a station wagon that has mud on the wheels from taking kids to scout camp. I want to be there with grass stains on my shoes from mowing Sister Schenk’s lawn. I want to be there with a smudge of peanut butter on my shirt from making sandwiches for a sick neighbor’s children. I want to be there with a little dirt under my fingernails from helping to weed someone’s garden. I want to be there with children’s sticky kisses on my cheeks and the tears of a friend on my shoulder. I want the Lord to know I was really here and that I really lived.” I have seen it attributed to her many times, but cannot find its source. I would be very grateful if you have any helpful information.

sincerely,

Spencer Leavitt

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